Monday, June 3, 2013

Monday Motivation: The Shine Theory


I was all set to discuss makeup with you all today, when a friend shared this amazing article with me from NYMag, discussing the "Shine Theory". After reading it, I knew it would be a disservice to my readers and fellow woman if I didn't do my part to share the key points of this theory with others.

So what's the "Shine Theory"?:

When you meet a woman who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful, and accomplished; instead of immediately hating her and tearing her apart in your mind befriend her.

Here's a few reasons why this theory totally works (and why you should immediately adopt it into your own life):

- The Associative property of awesomeness: People know you by the company you keep.
We've all heard the saying that birds of a feather flock together, if you want to improve something about yourself, a great way to do so is by friending woman who are already doing/ have knowledge about that area. Take for example celebrity friends Beyonce and Kelly Rowland. Kelly Rowland's association with megastar Beyonce doesn't make her any less of an artist, on the contrary it actually makes her shine more.

- True confidence is infectious.
Positivity attracts positivity. Rather then feeling an internal competition with other woman, see them as fellow cohorts and congratulate them on their accomplishments. By being happy for others it allows others to be happy for you.

Note: The shine theory is not an excuse to try and make friends just so you can use them. It's always obvious when people are just trying to be friends with someone so they can ride on their coattails, this is NOT what the theory is suggesting. Instead building healthy, genuine, adult female relationships with other successful woman is the goal of this theory.

I'll stop here so you can go read the original article. Once you're done be sure to come back and leave you're thoughts on this in the comment section below! To read the rest of the article and hear what else Ann Friedman has to say about the "Shine Theory" go to NYMag.Com

Comment below and let me know what you think about this article!? Do you believe in the shine theory?


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  1. This article is so true, when you learn to celebrate others accomplishment it's a matter of time before others celebrates you as we'll . Lets celebrate and build one another up not to tear down. Great article !!

  2. This was really powerful, thanks for sharing something with a deep meaning.

  3. I LOVE this article. That's exactly how I live my life and approach networking. The brighter you shine the more I want to get to know you and see what your shine is about and how you got there. If everyone (especially in my culture as a Black woman)could reach back and help pull up the girl behind us we'd get pretty far in this thing called life lol.